Halloween and hooking up: how to avoid awkward interactions

Posted by C.

The preparation and aftermath of Halloween can be nerve wracking. The costumes, festivities and hook ups can leave you feeling like more of a trick than a treat. Here is some advice to keep embarrasing moments to a minimum:

1. Wear a costume you feel comfortable in. Don't wear something that will unravel or expose any of your goodies. Be comfortable

and confident.

2. Eat a huge meal and stay hydrated … with water. No one likes interacting with someone who has cottonmouth.

3. If you plan to have a night of costumed, responsible fun you won't need to worry about the possibility of praying to the porcelain god.

Halloween is an exceptional excuse to act like a fool, but please refrain on the ghoul.

Dear C.,

I'm a freshman and I had a raging crush on this one guy all through high school. He's one of my best friends and over the summer we had a fling. He's now in NYC and I miss him a ton. I kind of want to go down to the city to see him, but we haven't seen each other since the summer, and I'm not sure where we stand. I don't want to make things awkward. What do you think?

–New York State of Mind

Dear NY State of Mind,

First of all you have to think about what this fling consisted of — were you guys doing the deed or just making kissy face here and there? Then consider his personality: is he a player or a more sensitive kind of guy?

The player type is more likely to have multiple flings with girls and only contact you late at night. The sensitive type is more likely to spend time with you without hooking up.

Whatever type he is, text him if you haven't already just to check up on him. Ask how he likes school, maybe throw in an inside joke; make it light and friendly, but not flirty. Bringing out the big guns right away might overwhelm him.

See how he responds. If it's positive, tell him you were thinking of going to the city with some friends, but make sure to actually find some friends to join you and be sure to clue them in on the situation.

Keep it simple and casual so he won't be overwhelmed by the idea. It will also, hopefully, calm your nerves if you know it's a casual thing.

Also, if he is one of your best friends, I wouldn't be too worried about him being awkward. Yes, I know it's easier said than done, but a little mystery is what makes relationships exciting.

–Hearts and Stars, C.

I am a nonbiased, nonjudgmental third party (because I love parties). My aim is to advise, not to direct. The real question is what will you do?

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