Posted by C.
With last week's grubfest I'm sure a few of us are feeling a bit weighed down. Hopefully it was all worthwhile, and if not, at least your jaw got a great work out.
As for the next few weeks, informally referred to as hell weeks, stress induced anxiety may lead to a lack of munching or a D-Hall overload, depending on your personality. Whether you substitute a solid meal with a huge latte or stock up on the offerings at Burgess, make sure to eat things that will make you feel good.
I'm not going to tell you what to eat, what the healthy alternatives are or to make sure you eat the colors of the rainbow at every meal - you can look that up online - but I do believe in giving yourself a compliment everyday, or whenever you feel down.
We all have those days when we look in the mirror and are not content with what we see — thank you Victoria's Secret Fashion Show! — but we must keep in mind that even those girls have flaws and dog days too.
Learn to love the flaws you have and work it: dance naked in your room, wear something sparkly, be generous with yourself and the compliments you give. If you're feeling really generous, reward your flaws with a guilty pleasure once a week.
Whether you wear sexy lingerie while taking a final exam or study naked, confidence in yourself can be that extra push to success which will make you proud of the work you accomplish.
Over Thanksgiving I realized I don't want to be with my high school boyfriend anymore. We have grown apart, but he seemed very happy to see me. I don't think he realized how unhappy I was. My question is — should I break up with him now so I'm not stressed out during finals, or wait until I go home and give it a second chance?
—Time (not) on my side
Dear Time (not) on my side,
I'm sorry for your loss of love and gain of stress, especially during this unfortunate time. However, some good things do come to an end and it's great that you're perceptive as to why the relationship is failing.
Consider how much of a burden the relationship is causing you — are you losing sleep, notice your mind wandering or feeling a growing anger and resentment toward him? If so, you don't want to leave a relationship on bad terms, especially if you had deep feelings for him and would like to remain friends.
Be honest, let him know that you notice the drift and would like to put things on hold until you can sort things out in person.
If you feel a break up is necessary, consider the consequences. Will your mind feel clear or cloudy with uncertainty that you made the wrong choice? Also think about him: if he, too, has final exams and still feels the relationship is strong, he will be affected by the break up, which might impact his studies.
Although he might have seemed happy, chances are he did notice your unhappiness, unless you're a budding starlet; he is probably experiencing the same insecurities you are. Even so, you are entitled to your own happiness and you are not responsible for his. Step back and consider what you want, the consequences and be honest with him. You might be growing apart from your high school sweetheart, but that doesn't mean all hope is lost.
—Stars and hearts, C.
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